Mothers Day: When There’s Not Much To Celebrate

What do you think of when you think of Mother’s Day? Be honest with yourself. Today I want to encourage you by saying that there’s no right way to feel about Mother’s Day.  Society sends us all kinds of messages about both Mother’s and Father’s Day. I realize this...

Three Steps to Healing from Your “Mother Wounds”

Mother’s Day is coming around again and I’m standing in the aisle looking for a card to send my mother. The cards never express what I’d like them to say. I dread this every year. Years ago, I sat in a therapist’s office hoping my marriage could be saved. At that...

Three Steps to Understanding Yourself

Mother’s Day is coming around again and I’m standing in the aisle looking for a card to send my mother. The cards never express what I’d like them to say. I dread this every year. Years ago, I sat in a therapist’s office hoping my marriage could be saved. At that...

A Mindful Response to Lust

As you know, the topic of lust is something that often comes up when one starts to talk about porn addiction and/or sexual integrity. And why wouldn’t it? After all, lust is often the precursor to the poor sexual decisions we sometimes make. Similarly, the other...

Aligning Our Thoughts With Our Values

One of the things I’m often reminded of about the recovery journey is that it’s anything but static. There’s a constant state of movement and change going on every day for the person who has made the decision to get healthy. For the man or woman who for years has been...

Help! I’m Not Attracted to My Spouse

A couple weeks ago I got an email from one of our small group leaders. He asked me if we had written anything on the topic of attraction that he could share with his group members who have shared that they’ve lost some sense of physical attraction for their spouse. ...